Hilary Valdez “Where your fear is. There is your task.” -Carl Jung Fear is part of being human. It’s okay to be afraid. People may suppress or deny fear, mistaking it for weakness. Fear protects us from danger and helps us stay alert to risk. Everyone, even the bravest Marine or Navy Seal feels fear at times. The difference is how they respond to it. The first step toward facing fear is to acknowledge it honestly. What if you and your group of Neanderthal homies were out hun

The Journey Inward Life is not a straight line. The journey at times can be terrifying, balanced by periods of boredom. At different points on my journey I pondered where was I going. What was my purpose? What am I? Who am I? My father would say, “You’re a smart guy, but you’re not thinking.” That didn’t make me feel warm and fuzzy, but it was true. Inner confusion affects all of us at different stages in our lives. During therapeutic sessions, Sigmund Freud would go for walk

The World You See A few years ago, I was in Rockford, Illinois, an idyllic leafy, tree-filled city, north of Chicago, close to Kenosha,...

Personal Growth During Vietnam my role as a bugler was to play taps while Marines were being buried. Grim duty. I played over 100...

Finding the Courage to Be Yourself The choices we make in connection with everyday thoughts, feelings, and behavior result in either...

When I was single, the bumper sticker on my car read: “Happiness is Being Single.” After a few years, that bumper sticker was replaced...

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third, by...

”The aim of psychoanalysis is to relieve people of their neurotic unhappiness so that they can be normally unhappy.” -Sigmund Freud As a...

Growing up in New York City, I would wander through Wall Street, staring at the American flags displaying the symbols of freedom,...

After countless hours of conducting group therapy for men, it is safe to say that we live in a world filled with complexities and...

I heard that a man’s smile and confidence is in proportion to his paycheck. But what happens when a person loses their job, or a...

Emotional Fulfillment in Relationships

In the coming months do you want to improve your behavior or stay the same? How much emotional baggage do you want to carry around. Are...

Men who are difficult to deal with are difficult with themselves. Here’s the problem: The more men identify with the “old fashioned”...

Turning points in life are milestones in our life experience. Happiness or sadness, neither lasts forever. The pendulum of life swings...