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The Psychology of Time: How to Live Fully in the Present Moment
A meaningful life is not measured in years, but in how consciously time is lived. Newton described time as absolute, meaning it exists whether anything happens or not. Time in psychology is not just something that passes, it’s something we participate in. Science asks what time is in the structure of reality? In my previous role as program director for in-patient care at Yokosuka Naval Hospital in Japan, making health and safety checks on SOFA military prisoners detained at a
Hilary Valdez
Apr 154 min read


The Power of Timing: How Life Unfolds When You’re Ready
I always equate karma with timing. I have been at extreme points in my life, between jobs, leaving the Corps, retiring, moving to another country, getting a divorce. But just when I was on the last knot of the karmic rope about to fall into the black hole and abyss of the unknown, I was rescued at the last moment. Timing is about alignment. The essence of timing is life unfolding through what we do and when we do it. In this sense, timing becomes a bridge between opportunity
Hilary Valdez
Apr 24 min read


What a Slice of Pie Taught Me About Happiness
Years ago, I was with a group of former Marines helping out a Marine’s ailing father manage farm chores in the Midwest. As a northern boy raised in the city, I had no knowledge of the management and difficulties of tending acres of corn, soybeans and vegetables, irrigation, and weed control. Tending to livestock, bailing hay, driving tractors, and milking cows were not in my skillset. Sitting for breakfast at 5 a.m. was a shock as I sat frozen, staring at a large slice of rhu
Hilary Valdez
Mar 243 min read


Waiting in Tokyo: Reflections on Life, Aging, and the Human Mind
Recently, I was waiting for friends at a busy Tokyo train station. I arrived early; they were 40 minutes late. Resigned to my fate, I found a comfortable place to stand. Observing hundreds of busy people, I wondered what their lives were like. Different ages, heights, weights, social status; some limping, some in wheelchairs, some blind, some disheveled or destitute. I was curious as to how they were surviving. Intriguing watching senior citizens smiling, bowing, greeting ea
Hilary Valdez
Mar 64 min read
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