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The Hidden Self and the Quiet Question of Who We Are Becoming
What do you think about all day? In those quiet moments, enjoying your private thoughts over coffee in your favorite cozy spot. What is your silent conversation? The hidden self of you, existing everyday beneath your social and professional roles, your habits and public identity. In a competitive society our hidden self often retreats. At times our beliefs don’t fit social expectations. For me, I never seemed to fit in, but I accepted it. Maybe our creativity is discouraged a

Hilary Valdez
Dec 23, 20254 min read


The World You See: A Journey Through Grief, Perception, and Emotional Healing
The World You See A few years ago, I was in Rockford, Illinois, an idyllic leafy, tree-filled city, north of Chicago, close to Kenosha,...

Hilary Valdez
Jun 23, 20254 min read


How Psychological Maintenance Builds Resilience and Happiness
“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third, by...

Hilary Valdez
Jan 29, 20254 min read


From Honeymoon to Heartbreak: The Silent Cycle of Domestic Violence
During the honeymoon phase of a relationship, happiness and hope prevails for the prospect of a future life together. In the beginning,...

Hilary Valdez
Oct 11, 20244 min read


The Masculine Paradox: How Group Therapy for Men Unlocks Compassion and Transforms Lives
After countless hours of conducting group therapy for men, it is safe to say that we live in a world filled with complexities and...

Hilary Valdez
Sep 4, 20242 min read


Free-Floating Anxiety: When Worry Takes Over Your Life (And How to Stop It)
All humans worry. But are you a worrywart? There is always something to worry about. Simple and difficult life challenges and choices can...

Hilary Valdez
Jul 21, 20243 min read


Man Up! Breaking Free from Traditional Masculinity to Achieve Self-Improvement
Men who are difficult to deal with are difficult with themselves. Here’s the problem: The more men identify with the “old fashioned”...

Hilary Valdez
Dec 6, 20233 min read


Anxiety and Weight Gain: Understanding the Connection and Tips
My whole life, I’ve struggled with weight. When under stress, I snacked, while watching my waistline expand: I felt worse. I found...

Hilary Valdez
Sep 14, 20233 min read


Empowering Mental Health Resilience: Navigating Challenges and Embracing Healing
Ever wonder what people are thinking? I do, especially if I’m in a sour mood. What are they smiling at? Some people look so happy and...

Hilary Valdez
Aug 19, 20233 min read


Helping Children Cope with Trauma: Navigating Christmas Eve After a Condominium Fire at Atsugi Navy
Christmas Eve, Atsugi Navy Base, Japan. Quite a few years ago there was a condominium fire where several children in the complex were...

Hilary Valdez
Aug 18, 20234 min read


How to Improve mental health, Mental Health Notes Part 2
Worldwide, the three most common mental health disorder diagnoses are anxiety disorders, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder...

Hilary Valdez
Aug 4, 20233 min read


How to Improve mental health, Mental Health Notes
Welcome to Life 101. Seems each day is a challenge to our personality and well-being. Every day we are bombarded with negative events...

Hilary Valdez
Jul 22, 20233 min read


Conflict | Mental Notes with Hilary Valdez
No person lives free from inner or outer conflict. For example, personal conflict is within the individual

Hilary Valdez
Jun 14, 20233 min read
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